My Fate, My Destiny……

As we move through life, the force of fate creates events that we only appreciate when we reflect on our existence. ~ Ronald Harmon

Fate is the force, principle, or power that decides events, as well as the inevitable happenings predestined by this force. Fate is a pivotal and indispensable tool that functions in our life. Fate is all what is beforehand chosen for us. There are many questions peppering our mind. Are we dependant on fate? Can we achieve whatever we want even if it’s not in our fate?? Can an underprivileged man modify his fate and develop into a thriving person? Does all hard work really work or go in vain as it is not in our fate? Is fate that much crucial?

Undeniably no one will deny the fact that our fate is written and determined by Almighty Allah. We get all those possessions which are in our fortune. Looking at your palms, have you ever pondered upon the mysteries of the criss cross lines? Are not they meaningful? Are not they determining your fate? If hard work does matter than why don’t these lines keep changing every day depending upon the struggle that we do daily and why we wonder when someone who does not deserve win out of thin air. Isn’t it because of the inevitable luck, for which we crave for?

There is a saying that: “Hard work can change our fate.” Sometimes it seems just a saying. Why don’t all of the students secure similar marks when assisted by the same mentors, when most of them burn mid night oil and solve the same paper? Why do some people curse their fate outside the examination hall for missing a question or solving it wrongly even when they know the correct way to attempt it? Luck, mere luck!!! Why doesn’t every employee seem contented at the time of increment? Aren’t the bootlicker acknowledged by the management quite often than the conscientious, relentless worker? Our success is actually revolving around our fate. The luckier we are, the more successful we will be. Undeniably, fate has an upper hand than hard work.

There are many people who will say that we should not be disappointed and keep on striving, yet the question arises, are you never disappointed on your defeat? How does it feel when all your efforts end in smoke? Don’t you cry your eyes out and wonder the cause of your failure? Let me divulge this secret, it’s all our fate and there is nothing we can do against it.

Fate matters in each and every aspect of our life. Think of a cricket or foot ball match, are not external factors of a great importance there? All the unremitting session of practice and strategies topple down when the rain pours down, or a wrong decision is taken by the umpire. Think about the time when the championship title is literally dependent upon the last penalty stroke. Is not that the fate that matters at that time?

William Shakespeare quotes:

“What fates impose, that men must needs abide; it boots not to resist both wind and tide”

Fate is utterly inexorable and we can't change our fate. If one tries to resist against the fate, he himself will perish in the course of this action. No matter how hard you try, fate will soon overwhelm you.

Love is Merely Madness

“There is always some madness in love," said Friedrich Nietzsche.

I know you will think of me mental if I say that love is a mental disorder, an utterly mad state. But give me a chance to justify my stance.

Let’s start with the story of love and madness. The time when the earth was not created, out of boredom, the virtues and vices had planned to play hide and seek. And guess what poor madness was adamant to count, as expected owing to his foolishness. As Madness counted, the vices and virtues went hiding. Tenderness, Treason, Fondness and Passion, all were hiding- except Love. For undecided as Love is, he could not decide where to hide. And this should not surprise us, because "Love and a red nose can't be hid."

Finally Love jumped into a rose bush where he hid.

One by one, Madness found them all - except Love. Envy told Madness where love was and in complete foolishness, Madness stabbed wildly at the rose bush with a fork. Since then Love is blind and being guilty Madness has become his guide. So, Love is blind and is always accompanied by Madness.

Convinced????????? Noooo. You donot believe myths????????

Never mind. Let me prove it scientifically.

The cover story of National Geographic magazine, cited a research that claims that people who fall in love have a chemical profile in their brains similar to that of people with a dis order, obsessive-compulsive, as noted by the author, psychologist Lauren Slater. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is an anxiety disorder in which people have unwanted and repeated thoughts, feelings, ideas, sensations, obsessions, or behaviours that make them feel driven to do something (compulsions).Doesn't it sound weird? Isn’t it craziness?

Tell me how do the people behave when they experience love? Overjoyed, excited, elated, talkative, their mind full of dreams and they weave a world- a utopia, where they see themselves dwelling happily with their lovers.  It’s interesting to tell you that these all are the primary symptoms of mania – craziness.

Sigmund Freud said,  “One is very crazy when in love.”

People in love are infamous for their unusual beliefs and, indeed, research has shown that they are inclined to hold unlikely and overly positive beliefs about their lovers. You must have heard boys bragging: She is the most beautiful girl on earth, though the person might not have seen the girls of even neighborhood, how can he claim that? Or often girls say, “You know ….. He can do anything for me,” however when the girls shyly demand them to talk to his parents about their marriage, they seem frozen. Whatsoever, I just want to draw your attention that how people exaggerate the abilities of their love and hold the delusional belief and this is simply mental disorder.

You must be amazed to know that there are people who are diagnosed with De Clérambault's Syndrome, also known as erotomania, it’s a form of paranoid delusion with an amorous quality. The patient thinks that another person is in love with him/ her, even if he or she has never ever seen that person. What do you say about that? Is there any one here with this disorder?  Surely we will have few such cases here as well.

It seems madness and love in many ways, are soul mates. You just say the word love in front of a doctor and you will find a number of diseases attached to it. Do try!!!

Love is actually an addiction as it has all the attributes of an addiction, including strong attention on a specific object, hopping around when things are going as you want and throwing tantrums when something goes wrong, the eagerness to do insane things like smiling while reading a text, blushing at some one’s name, waking up late and texting whole night and above all the strong belief that someone is very very special. In fact love makes you special, and I am sure you understand which special I am talking about.

Pedro Calderon de la Barca said, “Love that is not madness is not love.”

If you are still not convinced, I am afraid it’s the symptom of falling in Love and you need immediate treatment!!!!!”